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Sunday, July 13, 2014

Grandma Bowls and Other Memories

My "Grandma Bowls"



My paternal grandparents were both Ukranian and came here to the United States from Austria Hungary.  They met here in the United States in Philadelphia, PA. 

Sister to sister...

My grandma's name was Fanny and she arrived in the United States because her sister Katy arrived first, worked and saved her money until she could bring her sister to the land of opportunity.  I'm not certain of the date, but as my grandma was born a few years shy of 1900, I'm guessing she arrived sometime after 1914.

Katy got my grandma a job in the candy factory where she worked in Philadelphia and together they worked and saved until all sisters arrived. Eventually Katy, Fanny, Tassie and Mary all came to America.

Sadly, none of the details of their arrival were ever recorded, so I know only what I remember my grandma telling me about her youth.  I don't remember how my grandparents met, but I well remember their wedding portrait.  It showed my grandpa (Frank) seated on a straight-backed chair, my grandma (Fanny) standing to his left in her white dress, her right hand on his shoulder. In retrospect, when I think on it, that portrait was quite large, and something I would not have thought they could afford.   The portrait was about 3x4 feet and hung in their upstairs hallway above an old battered trunk.  

When I was a little girl and visited them (they lived in a small row-house in Lansdale then), I remember climbing the stairs just to see that portrait. For those unfamiliar with the term "row-house", in cities like Philadelphia, Reading, Allentown, Lansdale...cities all throughout the state...rows of identical-fronted houses were built.  They had tiny front yards, if they had front yards at all, and yards at the back of the house, usually large enough for a garden and a shed or two.

Today such homes are called "townhomes".  There are townhomes in many cities both here and in Europe.  In fact, London has some absolutely gorgeous townhomes.  If you were working class here in the U.S. and lived in such a home, it was a rowhouse.  The style was fairly utilitarian, and the rooms arranged in what I believe are referred to as "shot-gun" style.  This means you entered by the front door into an existing room and each room on the first level was directly behind it, usually a dining room and then the kitchen.

In my grandparent's house the stairway was enclosed and accessed through a door along the left side of the diningroom.  The door was always kept closed in the winter months, the better to keep the heat in the downstairs rooms.  The stairway itself was narrow, dark, and a bit twisty; it always gave me a little thrill of fear when I climbed those stairs.  At the top of the stairs was a landing/hallway.  

From the top of the steps if I looked left I could peer out a window facing the back yard.  Straight across from the stairway was a bedroom.  To the right, if I walked a short distance, there was a small area that held a toilet and a dresser.  This was the "upstairs" bath, and the area had a curtain drawn across for privacy.  This part of the upstairs was directly above the dining room and part of the kitchen.  Directly above the "front room" was another bedroom, at that time shared by my grandparents.

I honestly have no idea where all the children slept in this house!  My grandparents had five children.  I don't recall anyone telling me exactly when my grandparents moved into that house, but I know my Dad and his siblings spent some part of their youth there.  My Dad was the 4th child.  The eldest, Peter, died as a result of a childhood accident at age 12, leaving Nicholas the eldest, followed by Helen, Paul (my dad) and Anna.  

My grandfather worked at a company (Andale) within walking distance of their house.  I don't remember exactly what he did, but he worked with his hands in a factory.  Unfortunately there is no one left for me to ask; my Aunt Ann was the family historian and she died more than 6 years ago.  Their way of life was nothing unusual or even special to them.  How I wish I had thought to write down my memories of them, their life, and our time together!

Back to the bowls!

I never ever saw my grandma use a recipe when she cooked!  All the cooking instructions were stored inside her memory, and she was more than happy to teach you how to cook certain things (pierogies come to mind first).  She, like most housewives of the era didn't use what we consider standard measuring cups or spoons.  She had certain tea cups to measure flour, etc., and certain spoons for other ingredients.  She used her eyes and sense of touch when she cooked.

I loved visiting on a Friday because that was the day she made pierogies!  It was the highlight of any visit.  I loved to watch her peel and cook the potatoes, mix the dough on a big floured board (putting out the flour, making a little well and then adding eggs), knead it smooth and then pinch off little balls of raw dough that she then flattened, filled with the wonderful potato/cottage cheese/cheddar cheese filling, folded over and then pinched the ends together.  After they were formed, each pierogie as then boiled in hot water until the dough cooked and then went into a frying pan full of butter, sauteed onions and sometimes bacon to be fried to a light caramel color.  When finished, they were piled on our plates and slathered with sour cream.  Words can never do justice to the finished product!  

Sometimes grandma would fill the dough with sauerkraut (not a family favorite) or with cooked, pitted prunes (yes, you read that correctly).  I can remember my Aunts and Uncles complaining around the table when the alternate pierogies came out!  

Dinners at my grandma's house was usually roast beef or chicken.  She often made a wonderful chicken broth served as a soup course.  No noodles or even chicken, just rich, golden chicken broth with a bit of chopped parsley for garnish.  There were potatoes (or pierogies), and some sort of cooked vegetable along with a salad.   I don't recall a lot of details about Sunday dinners, but I know that not one person ever walked away from that table still feeling hungry!

Easter dinner is the one meal that never varied:  baked ham, served with hand grated horseradish, asparagus, red beet eggs,  and Paska (the best holiday bread ever...and made only on Easter).  We ate every Easter dinner at my grandparents' house for as long as I could remember until after my grandpa died.  Butter was always served in abundance, and everything was homemade.

My grandma had a huge garden planted every summer, and we had all sorts of wonderful treats from her garden.  I especially remember the cucumbers and the tomatoes for some reason.  She never called the cucumbers anything other than pickles, because aside from the few we ate in salads, she used that variety for homemade pickles.  I remember her growing leaf lettuce and cabbage as well.  The tomatoes were enormous.  I can still see her in later years, working in her garden. For years after my grandpa died, my own dad made a yearly trip to dig her garden for her.

um...the bowls???

Oh, yes, the bowls.  My grandma had a set of heavy earthenware mixing bowls that she used daily.  They looked very much like the bowls in the photo.  I loved those bowls because such wonderful foods were prepared in them, and I came to think of them almost as extensions of my grandma's hands.  I came to love those bowls she used, along with the Blue Willow patterned dishes she used.  I remember one of her measuring cups was the cracked blue patterned tea cup that she used to measure flour.

I could write grandma stories for days, I suppose.  She died in the early '70s and I still miss her so much!  She had more of an influence on my life than I ever realized.  The day I saw the set of mixing bowls at Restoration Hardware in Westlake Village, CA was the day I felt forever bonded to my heritage.

I could not wait to get those bowls home, and I guard them carefully when I use and wash them.  The make me feel like a little girl in my grandma's kitchen, "helping" her cook.  They also make me feel like a "real" grandma!

Our grandchildren live a significant distance from them, and I very seldom have the opportunity to cook for them.  When I do, I especially look for reasons to use my Grandma Bowls. 

Because our grandchildren live far from us, I can't give them the typical "Grandma" legacy many of us have experienced.  I am very grateful that the grandchildren have some grandparents living nearby.  If I can't be there, at least a few of their grandparents are able to take my place.

I hope that one day my grandchildren will read my blog posts, and learn a bit about me and the rest of their family.  My writing will, I pray, be my legacy to them.




Tuesday, July 8, 2014

The Grandchildren Have Arrived! Hope You Are Rested!

Hooray for Grandchildren!

Having grandchildren is your prize for surviving your child's puberty.  This is especially appreciated if you (an only child) have more than one child and eventually multiple grandchildren arrive.  The thought of having grandchildren some day may be the only thread you hang on to when your own children are testing their independence of you.

I have to laugh when I remember my dad telling me, "I hope someday you have a child Just Like You".  I laugh because I used to think that was a compliment.  The day I realized what he really meant by that phrase was the day I determined to get my own "revenge" on some future day.

My two sons tested me daily, as most children do.  It's a natural product of growth.  I remember waiting for them to become more independent, and when they did, I remember wondering why I wished that upon myself.  That began at approximately 2 years of age for them...the terrible twos was not a misnomer.

Now I can laugh!

I remember some of those days; now I have to laugh.  There was the day that my youngest son came toddling down the steps from his bedroom, a narrow plastic tube held in his mouth like a cigarette. (Neither of his parents smoked, but he had grandparents who smoked).  I intercepted him navigating his way down the stairs and said "where did you get that?" as I removed the tube from between his little teeth.  He pointed up the stairs and said one word, "Chris".   

Uh oh, I thought it had been a bit too quiet in their bedroom.  I quietly walked into the room looking for big brother Chris (who was about 4 or so at the time) and found him quietly lining things up on his windowsill.  Little white mouse-shaped objects made of white cotton and tailing strings.

Yep, half a box of tampons opened, "disassembled" and placed in a line like so many little white mice.  Just when you think you have everything put away out of reach.

Then there was the day big brother found a hole in a bedrest, and proceeded to pull out as much stuffing as his chubby little hands could manage out of the corduroy-covered pillow and...throwing all the stuffing on to his brother, napping in the crib on a 85-degree summer afternoon.

Like sun following a rainy day

There were lots of "rainy day" moments when I wondered how I was going to make it through mommyhood. I read lots of childcare articles and all my friends and I commiserated with each other after "bedtime".  I never looked so forward to bedtime as I did during those early years of motherhood.  Two babies in diapers and neither one anxious for potty-training!  Oh, the humanity.  And their lucky Daddy got to go to work every day!  

Time passes along with all the various stages of childhood and it is at that point that you find yourself not only wishing where the time went, but wishing you could have some of it back.  Before you know it your babies are in high school, college and out into the world. 

My wish was realized!

In time, both sons married and children were welcomed to the family.  Hooray!  Kyle in 1997,  and over the next 5 years or so joined by siblings Connor and Kacie and cousin Elias.  Boyhowdy!  Now I was going to be the Nana!  That meant I could remember all those days and activities spent grooming their fathers for manhood and fatherhood, sit back and...wish I had lots of those days back to enjoy.

Being a grandparent means you relive the days when you were just a "parent" and wondering if you were ever going to "get it right".  It's when you become a grandparent, look at your adult children, and really see if in fact you DID get it right.  I am truly blessed to be able to say that with a lot of help, the babies who grew into little boys and then adult men are now both amazing fathers to their own children.  There are many people in that journey to thank including the boys' father, the grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends and teachers. Every person in their lives contributed a bit to who they are today.

Even today, both men are still listening to and even accepting some advice from their parents, step-parents and even a great-grandmother!  As I said, I am truly blessed!

The summer week that is just beginning...and the one I am dreading to see end

Connor and Kacie's flight arrived from Orlando to Philadelphia where they were met by one set of grandparents.  They stopped by our house to say "hi", play with Mollie and visit with their Great Grandma.  It's always so exciting to see them!  Fred and I haven't seen them since Thanksgiving, and Connor has had a major growth spurt!

Both he and Kacie are, well, they are both truly extraordinary..intelligent, talented, goal oriented, and so personable!  OK, maybe I am just a teensy bit prejudiced!  Hey, if you do not believe your own grandchildren are the best and most precious things alive today, then I have serious doubts about your motives.

Their week here in Pennsylvania will be chock full of activity, and much of it has already been planned out for them by the eager grandparents.  I don't know who is more excited for the fun to begin, but we are going to have absolutely wonderful adventures!  As the week progresses I will be able to add our own experiences with them.  In the meantime, we have a little photo to display of Kacie, their Great Grandma (my mom), and Connor.  Bring on the
fun!  More photos to follow!

Kacie, Great Grandma, Connor 2014

Kyle, Connor, Kacie 2010

Elias, Dave, Great Gradma 2013